Sunshine sketches of a little town

Last night I savoured nostalgia the way you would a chocolate truffle that melts in your mouth. Taken from a box tied with a ribbon, made from butter thick cream and the darkest coco; it flowed over me.

I have never been so impressed with a final chapter. Stephen Leacock’s thin novel Sunshine Sketches of a Little Town stirs up memories of a home that I never had – Mariposa –  but can entirely relate to, even having been raised in the suburbs instead of a small town off a dirt road along winding river.

It’s deeply satisfying to read a well written piece of work. And just as he began to talk about home, and Home, and the place that is buried in the past, I knew this was going to something about which to write. He has you see the train that everyone has forgotten, the train that carries you back to that place you grew up, the place with all those sunny memories . . . and he has you take that train and watch it transform into everything good you know about those times.

It made me think of my home – not exactly the one in Kanata 2010, but more the one in my mind, the one I visit to watch giant snowflakes drift through the air, or the maple leaves turn yellow, or the sun that streaks with redness across the field, and I grew up in the suburbs, far less sentimental than a small town where everyone knows everyone, but nostalgia is a strong cocktail, I figure, no matter where you grew up.

Anyhow, having slowly plucked my way through the pages of this book and laughed along with the ridiculousness of the narrator and characters, it was a disarming to read Leacock sober up and take us on this sad journey into a place to which we can’t actually return.

I long for Christmas because it’s what I knew back when things were far, far easier. And I miss Canada because not only is it an excellent country, but it is Home, no matter where else I live – no matter where else I may go – it will always be Home. And funnily enough, I know that those feelings are placed back in time. This is now, this is my life now and it is a good one (a very good one).  Ten years into the future I’ll probably long for the time Zsolt and I lived in a one bedroom apartment along a busy street filled with students, and we’d walk to the green grocers to buy our vegetables.

Nostalgia is a funny thing. Being emotional lately I think it catches me more often, and yesterday’s final chapter (L’Envoi. The Train to Mariposa) caught me right up, wrapped me right up, and sent me to bed with dreams full of Young ponds, and popsicle outings, and sitting under my maple.

Nostalgia is a nice place to visit, though I certainly couldn’t live there. That would be too hard.  Instead I’ll go and give Zsolt a kiss on the cheek, make a cup of tea, and look out the window for something interesting. I love my life now: my independence, my husband, my friends, my family, my writing, my adventures – all despite this breast cancer blip. But it was nice to ride Leacock’s train, if only for the night. He is a talented writer, which is always a pleasure.

Halloween pumpkin

Boo!

Zsolt and I have decided to celebrate Halloween. I know that back home ‘deciding’ to celebrate Halloween is as inevitable as deciding to rake the lawn, but here in England it is 100% optional.


It’s been years since I’ve dressed up for a party, and since we’re not going to a party (too many potential germs!) – it may be several more. But there are other ways to get into the Halloween spirit. First and foremost: carve a pumpkin.

Today after work we dropped into the green grocer’s on Portswood and selected a pumpkin. My experience vetoed Zsolt’s desire for a tiny pumpkin because – frankly – it’s really hard to carve a face onto a tiny surface.  Now our pumpkin (about 1 foot tall, and somewhat narrow) is sitting by the door waiting for Sunday. Though by Canadian standards this is a small pumpkin. Back home we would go to the farm where there’d be a moutain of pumpkins – massive pumpkins, big as a man’s torso. We’d buy a few, because why not? But our English pumpkin is perfect for our English apartment.  Plus, it’s Zsolt’s first time; don’t want to overwhelm the man.

Tomorrow is blood. Friday is chemo. Saturday is rest. Sunday is pumpkin. It’ll be all the activity I can handle, made easier by Zsolt deseeding and carving while I sit by and nod, occasionally napping. After we carve the pumpkin (once it’s dark and spooky outside) we’ll watch a Halloween film. Trouble here is that I have zero tolerance for scary. So, as to what Halloween film we’ll watch I’m not sure. Maybe the Rocky Horror Picture show? Although it looks several kinds of crazy. Is there a Halloween film that leaves you feeling warm and fuzzy (instead of jumpy and paranoid)?

Or we could watch Love Actually again, for the thousandth time. 🙂

Anyhow, it’ll be fun. Why not have a bit of fun?

Just checking up

That’s that.

Turns out this was a follow up appointment. They just wanted to see ‘where we were’ in our thoughts toward fertility testing, and how far along treatment had progressed. No one scolded anyone for wasting time.

Basically, the fertility clinic is positioned beside the maternity ward, and beside the breast clinic. Therefore walking in for my appointment was slightly emotional. First there are pregnant women everywhere and happy families with gift bags reading ‘baby’ in pink or blue bubble letters. Next there is the breast screening clinic where I had my original biopsy. Finally, the fertility clinic waiting room is beside – can you guess? – beside the very room where I first learnt I had breast cancer.

So Zsolt and I sat for an hour and a half, facing opposite that unfortunate room, until we were called in to see the doctor.

I went through several stages of emotion. Sadness, surprise, resentment (aka jealousy towards these lovely, pregnant mothers) followed by simple exhaustion with the wait time.

Breast cancer care in England is very comprehensive. Not only do they treat the problem, they treat the implications. During our meeting the doctor discussed future testing and how we could ‘get started’ on the road to pregnancy once all my treatments were over. She even mentioned testing Zsolt’s sperm, which surprised me because I had assumed that the emphasis was on my fertility. However – we are a unit, both sides matter.

Comprehensive.

Today was okay. Before the appointment I was nervous to the point of freaking out *why? I don’t  know . . . let’s blame it on the menopause. Now it’s done I feel better.

Plus on the way home while listening to classic fm, they played a rousing bit of music where the fellow kept singing “Figaro, Figaro, Figaro!” That was wonderful. Zsolt and I rocked out.

And there you have it: Fertility mystery appointment solved.